I don’t want to see families broken up. I want a world where children grow old with their parents and have a mutually beneficial relationship with them. I don’t want adult children to go through what I have been through. If you are serious about healing the hurt that you have caused your children, then it’s time to try to understand why they feel hurt and no longer want to speak to you. If you are serious about not wanting to raise your children and slowly watch them disconnect with you emotionally over time, the same applies.
Information flows so easily now-a-days. Your children or future children will grow up with a wealth of knowledge available to them. When they begin to discover the truth, they will be angry for being lied to for so long. There is no hiding the truth anymore, so please stop hiding it from yourself. For your children’s sake, and your own, educate yourself. Otherwise you are going to learn a hard lesson.
You say the information wasn’t available to you? I might have believed that a century ago. I started to read a great book today called Parent Effectiveness Training. It was first published in the 70′s and information about it was available in the 60′s. Sorry, but you’re out of excuses and your children are pissed.
If you are going to become a parent or have young children, please do yourself a favor and read this book before it’s too late. After you read it, spend the money on therapy. If you can’t connect to yourself as a child, what makes you think you will connect with your own children?
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It amazes me just how uneducated a lot of parents are. You’d think they’d do a little research before the child is born.
James, I think they avoid information on purpose. To explore your emotions about your childhood is extremely hard. Especially when 99.9% of people are surrounded by other people who think that it is wrong to explore emotions.
My mother actually read the book around ´75 and changed a lot of her mothering strategies. That was very good for my sister and me, and I am grateful for that. But she failed to look into her own abusive relationship with her parents, which had eventually emotionally very damaging consequences for both of us children. I think she sensed that the changes that would have become obviously necessary were huge, and she was unconsciously choosing to avoid this knowledge. Now I am in therapy again to clear up several issues that previous therapies did not solve.