I don’t want to see families broken up. I want a world where children grow old with their parents and have a mutually beneficial relationship with them. I don’t want adult children to go through what I have been through. If you are serious about healing the hurt that you have caused your children, then it’s time to try to understand why they feel hurt and no longer want to speak to you. If you are serious about not wanting to raise your children and slowly watch them disconnect with you emotionally over time, the same applies.
Information flows so easily now-a-days. Your children or future children will grow up with a wealth of knowledge available to them. When they begin to discover the truth, they will be angry for being lied to for so long. There is no hiding the truth anymore, so please stop hiding it from yourself. For your children’s sake, and your own, educate yourself. Otherwise you are going to learn a hard lesson.
You say the information wasn’t available to you? I might have believed that a century ago. I started to read a great book today called Parent Effectiveness Training. It was first published in the 70’s and information about it was available in the 60’s. Sorry, but you’re out of excuses and your children are pissed.
If you are going to become a parent or have young children, please do yourself a favor and read this book before it’s too late. After you read it, spend the money on therapy. If you can’t connect to yourself as a child, what makes you think you will connect with your own children?
Watch closely, Obama actually says, “You are privatizing something that is what essentially sets a nation-state apart, which is the monopoly on violence”.
I do not want to be defined by conclusions. I want to be defined by how I came to those conclusions.
When someone thinks of an atheist they often think of an old eccentric crank that either spouts off hatred towards Christians or quotes negativity from similar eccentric cranks. In fact, this has already been fairly accurately spoofed over at Objective Ministries.
Atheism
When someone thinks of an anarchist, the first image that comes to mind is mohawks, leather, molotov cocktails and G20 anti-capitalist rallies:
Anarchy
…and this is the problem with being married to conclusions. Without reason and evidence to back your ideas, you are doomed to self destruction.
I am not immune from this. Before I discovered philosophy I was a conservative, a liberal, a libertarian, a pragmatist, and a moral relativist. I was married to these conclusions because they fit the psychological state I was in. Until I really began self exploration I went through life miserable wondering why these conclusions denied me the happiness they promised. Once I discovered philosophy and later combined it with psychology (self exploration) I became free of my conclusions and started to become happy.
Admittedly, it’s a hard habit to break. I still have the urge to fly the yellow and black flag and call myself an anarcho-capitalist or don the newest atheist symbol on my blog. I still have the urge to bitterly rail against the system and against Christians. Sometimes I even act on those urges. …but lately I have been trying to remember the molotov cocktails and crotchety gloom and doom atheists and that helps to remove that urge. It helps remind me that I do not want to be defined by what I am against but rather what I am for; logic, reason, truth, happiness.
People know deep down that bitter, grouchy, negative people do not have the truth. And even if they do have it, who would want it if it came with that?
I desire for my love of the truth to shine through in my own life. It’s true, there is no god. It’s true, the government is just a group of men with guns. But, I am not married to these conclusions. If I am presented with reason and evidence that these conclusions are false I will change my position. That is why I do not want to be known as an atheist anarchist. I want to be known as a philosopher and I want that to shine through in my every action, rather than through a flag or a symbol.
Related posts:
- Atheism is a conclusion, nothing more
- Virtue, Values and Ownership
- …leave a comment if you would like me to post a related link
Tags: anarchist, atheist, philosopher
Colleen wrote a great post about The Dirty Secret of Corporal Punishment. It is a must read for new parents that have been raised with the idea that spanking is OK. It is not OK.
If we deconstruct what spanking really is, perhaps we can gain a better perspective. Slapping the bottom of a strange woman would obviously be seen as sexual harassment. Fondling the bottom of a child would obviously be seen as a sexual violation. However, miraculously, when you combine these two elements to the slapping of a child’s bottom, it becomes…not a sexual violation? We must denormalize these commonly acccepted practices in our society. According to research, the slapping of the buttocks leads to stimulation of the nerve endings that lead to sexual arousal. This means that even if a child is in extreme pain, he can simultaneously be experiencing arousal. In the worst case, this may lead to a lifelong association with sexual arousal and pain. Many people, like the BDSM culture, take pride in these fetishes, but I can’t help but think that given the choice, children would decide to grow up with a normal sexuality.
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It generally falls on us, the survivors of sexual molestation, rape, and exploitation, to take up the torch to protect future generations from these atrocities. Not many people are willing to discuss these crimes, because, frankly, large segments of the population benefit from them. Sex abuse is recognized by psychologists to have the worst effects of any other kind of abuse, often leading people into lives of crime, drugs, alcohol, early motherhood, low-impact jobs, and even sex work. A brilliant thinker points out in a book that will soon be released that these effects clear much of the competition out of the way for more functionally-raised people in the workforce. So in addition to sparing the parents and family members who perpetrate these crimes and allow them to occur, the silence and inaction of people on issues of childhood sex abuse proves very economically advantageous for those who do not have to suffer it. Of course, none of this is consciously realized, but our instant recognition of it as a potent truth shows that this is something we have perhaps unconsciously realized all along. In a world where child abuse did not take place, those with functional upbringings would have to work harder to achieve what they can more easily achieve now. They would have to compete with more well-adjusted people. They could not indulge in the vanity that they are just “better” than the people who have ended up as criminals, prostitutes, or single-mother fast food employees.
Tags: abuse
Welcome! My blogs and journals have transformed with me over time. This blog is yet another phase in my growth as an individual.
Click on the categories at the top of this blog to read about my history, therapy, business ideas or just my thoughts in general.
My main goal with this blog is to detail my journey towards freedom. I know, freedom is a pretty general and loosely used term. I promise it will be much clearer what I mean by it in the posts to come.
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